When Abortion Breaks a Family’s Heart
Abortion causes a deep grief in one’s soul, whether it’s personal or relational. It profoundly affects the mother and often the father, grandparents, siblings, cousins, other family members, and friends.
Too often, folks are left to bear their grief and sorrow alone. So, where do people go to share their feelings about the abortion of a loved one? Where do they find the strength to rise above the loss when they thought it was the right answer, only to discover it was not?
There are few places where someone can speak openly about the pain of abortion without fear of judgment. Human Coalition’s Abortion Memorial – a sacred space for honesty, healing, and hope in Christ – is one of them. This is a website where anyone can talk to a child lost to abortion from the depths of their heart, with honesty and transparency.
At Abortion Memorial, thousands have written confessions, apologies, and words of love to the children they never met but will never forget.
From a mother:
Kai Juniper
My sweet baby. I’m so sorry for what I did. I felt like I had no choice, your father didn’t want you and I argued that he wouldn’t have to worry about taking care of you because I would have. Your brother and sister miss you and love you so. I’m sorry I didn’t hold you, I’m sorry I wasn’t strong enough for you. I’m sorry I failed you. 10/27/21 is the worst day of my life, I will forever love you and miss you. I’m so sorry.
From a father:
Dads hurt too.
When my fiancé told me she was pregnant, I was so excited. I was so happy. I always wanted to be a dad.
When she told me she was going to have an abortion, I about died. I begged her over and over to keep my baby. Every time I thought I had her convinced, she turned around and changed her mind. I begged and pleaded and begged. In the end, she had the abortion. When my baby died, I died too. It took me years to get past it. I will never get over it. It’s been over 40 years, and it still hurts. I will never stop wondering who my little one would have grown up to be.
I only hope that I will someday see you in heaven, my sweet little one. Daddy will always love you!
From a grandparent:
You are so loved…
My precious Jami,
I want you to know this isn’t how I wanted to talk to you, I want to hold you in my arms, watch you walk, talk, and come running into my arms, saying I love you too Gma. But, I didn’t get a say my sweet, sweet grandson, no words will ever be enough to tell you how sorry I am for what you had to endure.
My lil Roo you are so loved even if you never were held, I was so excited to meet you one day, and love you and spoil you just like your brother and sister. You will always and forever be in my heart and on my mind and I will never forget you.
I love you Jami so, so much and you deserve so much more than you were given. Fly high and free Micheal James (Jami) …. GMA will see you one day. LOVE YOU so, so much Love GMA.
From a sibling:
I’m sorry
I am sorry that I never got to meet you. I am sorry that I never got to call you big brother. I am sorry that you never got to pick on me. I am sorry mom felt she wasn’t ready. Mom is so hurt she did this. Mom cries for you every day. She did not know what she was doing. She regrets it every day bubby. We all wish you were here. Please don’t be mad at mom. I cry for you. I love you brother. I love you my older brother. I love you, Chris. I cannot wait to meet you in heaven. I know you’re with grandpa. I am happy grandpa was there to meet you. See you when I see you…
Human Coalition president Jeff Bradford and his wife, Tricia, chose abortion for their first child. They share their abortion experience:
Our Decision
Jeff (husband): It was about five months into our six-month engagement when we found out we were pregnant. We didn’t want to embarrass our families at the wedding. When you’re 20-something years old, you believe the lie that it’s not a baby yet. But deep down you know there is a life at stake.
We didn’t talk about the abortion for 15 years, and the first years of marriage were extremely difficult… Neither of us had ever dealt with the hurts and wounds, or the guilt and shame that comes along with ending the life of your first child.
A woman deserves to be protected and fought for, and abortion is everything but that… It is something I will never forget. I have been forgiven, but the pain and regret remains.
Tricia (wife): I wanted the man I was about to marry to rescue me and tell me it was going to be alright. I wanted him to choose our child over being embarrassed at the wedding. It seems ridiculous now. How could we have been so selfish? It has taken me years to forgive myself, though I know the Lord has forgiven me. Accepting forgiveness is like receiving salvation. You do it by faith. Does it take the hurt away? No. It’s a process, and it’s about allowing God to meet you where you are.
Read Jeff and Tricia’s full story in their book, Beauty from Ashes.
The journey Jeff and Tricia experienced reminds us that no one is beyond the reach of God’s redemption. Until every heart finds peace and every child is protected, we will keep offering hope, healing, and a place for tears to turn into prayer.
