Many of the women who work at Human Coalition have experienced an unexpected pregnancy. At one point in their life, they rode the emotional roller coaster of choosing between life and death. They understand what it’s like to sift through copious advice from well-meaning family and friends. And in most cases, they look back on that scary season wishing they’d had a compassionate and trained caregiver to walk with them throughout their decision-making.
Most women wish they’d had a compassionate and trained caregiver to walk with them. Share on XMelisa works at Human Coalition as a Contact Center agent. A single mom of three children, she knows what it’s like to discover you are pregnant just as your life is unfolding. “I was in high school, working part-time at a grocery store, running track, having fun. But then I found out I was pregnant.”
Like so many women we serve, Melisa felt a myriad of emotions from fear to excitement to anxiety. “I remember thinking just how mad my dad was going to be. I remember thinking of my baby; there was no other thought in my mind.” Thanks to her supportive family, Melisa chose life for her baby.
“I enjoyed being a mom, and my son was a great little boy,” Melisa recalls. However, that joy did not prepare her for what happened next. “Several years later, while dating the man who would one day become my husband, I was pregnant again.” Unlike her first unexpected pregnancy, this one was not welcomed or supported. “I kept thinking this couldn’t be happening again.” As a single mom struggling to make ends meet, Melisa remembers thinking, abortion seems like the only option for me. So she immediately scheduled a procedure for the following day.
That’s when the baby’s father stepped up in a big way. Share on XThat’s when the baby’s father stepped up in a big way. He met Melisa for lunch and pleaded with her not to abort their baby. He promised to take care of her and their children. “Once he reaffirmed his dedication to our family and to me, I was talked off that ledge.” A few months later, they welcomed their baby girl, Abby, into the world.
I cannot imagine my life without my three kids and all the joy, laughter, love, and heartache. Share on XUnfortunately, within five years their marriage did not survive, and Melisa found herself a single mom again – this time with three children. “That was a very lonely and hard time for me. But I cannot imagine my life without my three kids and all the joy, laughter, love, and heartache we have endured together.”
Today, Melisa channels the wisdom and joy she’s gained from her journey into helping other women who face similar circumstances. “I love this calling that has been placed on my life. Little did I know how my unexpected pregnancy back in May of 1999 would prepare me for helping other pregnant women. “If I can help protect only one woman and her family from the despair, grief, and guilt that follow an abortion, then all of my struggles will have been worth it.”
When asked what she would say to single moms who don’t believe they have the strength to parent a child, Melisa responds, “Yes, life as a single mom has been so hard. But my goodness, the joy and love far outweigh those hard times.”
“Yes, life as a single mom has been so hard. But the joy and love far outweigh those hard times.” Share on XLike so many women who say no to abortion, Melisa is now one of the boldest advocates for LIFE, as demonstrated by her commitment to Human Coalition. “I am so grateful for Human Coalition – what we stand for and for how hard all of us fight for these women, their babies, and their families. I often think how different things would have been for me, and countless other women facing a similar situation, if only Human Coalition and their life-affirming resources and clinics had been around back then. Maybe… just maybe… abortion would never have been an option.”
Please keep Melisa in your prayers as she ministers to the hurting women and men who contact Human Coalition in search of hope.
Melisa you have done an amazing job with all three of your kids. God has blessed me to be apart of your family. I love you.
I’ve been involved in the prolife movement for many years and when I hear or read testimonies of girls and women who become pregnant when they didn’t want to have a baby, it always seem as though they had caught a cold or the flu…that the pregnancy just happened to… Read more »
So you have never sinned before? What makes you more righteous then her? Nothing right? Think before you judge others. If you are a so called Christian you would know not to judge others but love them.
Melisa, thanks for sharing your story. The Lord does work in unexpected way. Enjoy every moment with your children, they grow up way too fast. Blessings
Thank you for the stories of bravery and perseverance.
God’s blessings to you and your family Melissa
Love it all!!!
Very Touching. Why not all the Ecclesiastical Conferences of the world think of starting a “Human Coalition” – Congrats Melissa.. My prayers and blessing.
That is an inspiring story. Hopefully, it will help other young mothers to make a decision to have their babies.
Praise be….well done mom and dad 🙂 Proper education is so vital for kids. We had an abortion in 78 aged around 20 (RIP dear little Faith) and there was no consideration it was a baby. In fact the thought was get in quick and its not a baby. Terrible… Read more »
A wonderful perspective on Life from a single mom….
Thank you ,Melissa for standing up for the babies. You are a voice for the voiceless. Please continue to let the Mothers know that Motherhood is a gift from God. Each child has a path to follow and we are asked to help in God’s Plan.
God Bless you Melissa and your children. God has special plans for you.
I’m a Christian and I’m sure you must know where I stand concerning this question….. I’m not down on anyone for anything they do, I just know that it (wouldn’t be right for me) to have sex out of marriage. You apparently feel differently for your own lifes. What I… Read more »
Have you never sinned? If you are a true Christian you would not be so quick to judge. You as a Christian should show love and grace. So think before you judge.
Melissa – When I read your opening line: “I was in high school, working part-time at a grocery store, running track, having fun. But then I found out I was pregnant.” I couldn’t help but ask myself: “What? Did you draw short straws? Did you play pregnancy roulette? The reality… Read more »
Michael, Your comments are self righteous. Many women choose abortion as a solution because they are afraid of comments like yours. You have made ill-informed and unnecessary suggestions for Melisa, and I am sad your comment was written.
Who said the men in her life were wrong? Sometimes relationships fall apart for other reasons. Divorce statistics list financial stress as one of top reasons. You are jumping to conclusions that are not based on facts presented. Any man that steps up and says “Don’t have an abortion –… Read more »
Michael, Please whenever you make a comment have a point. It helps people who are reading to understand what you are trying to say no matter how stupid you sound. I am glad to see that you have known this beautiful woman all your life and have such a strong… Read more »
Wow, you should not judge her on her actions and criticize her. She took care of her children and grew as an adult. I’m sure you made your own mistakes too!
May God heap his blessings on this mama and her sweet babies. God ALWAYS has a plan for those who are faithful because HE is faithful!
Inasmuch as you did it to the least of these, you did it to Me.
Yes – I will keep Mellissa in my prayers – Lord JESUS Christ please help her work for Life , choosing Life, amen